Play is Learning: How Simple Games Build Communication

When children play, they’re not “just having fun.” Play is how kids learn to connect, communicate, and think. For young children — especially those with autism, ADHD, or developmental delays — play is one of the most powerful ways to build language and social skills.

Why Play Matters

Play isn’t extra. It’s the foundation for how children:

• Learn back-and-forth interaction.

• Practice listening and responding.

• Develop language through shared experiences.

• Build problem-solving and imagination.

When we join a child’s play, we show them: “Your ideas matter. I want to connect with you.” That builds motivation for communication.

Simple Games, Big Skills

Here are a few everyday games that support communication:

Peek-a-Boo

• Builds anticipation and shared joy.

• Encourages eye contact and turn-taking.

Rolling a Ball

• Practices waiting, signaling, and using gestures.

• Teaches back-and-forth flow of conversation.

Building Blocks

• Teaches joint attention (“Look what I built!”).

• Creates chances to request, share, and comment.

Pretend Play

• Expands imagination and symbolic thinking.

• Supports longer conversations and flexible communication.

How Parents Can Support Play

You don’t need fancy toys. What matters mostly is joining in:

• Follow your child’s lead.

• Add a little language to match the play.

• Use facial expressions and gestures to keep it fun.

• Keep interactions short and positive.

When children feel successful in play, they’re more likely to communicate.

The Big Picture

Play isn’t separate from learning- it is learning. Through play, children practice the back-and-forth of real communication and build the skills they’ll use for life.

If you’d like ideas for how to bring more play into your child’s daily routine, I’d be happy to talk with you.