Making Transitions Easier: Simple Tips for Everyday Routines

Transitions are hard for many children. Moving from one activity to another — leaving the playground, turning off the TV, getting ready for bed — can lead to stress, resistance, or meltdowns. The good news: a few simple strategies can make daily transitions smoother for both you and your child.

Why Transitions Are Challenging

For young children, changes mean:

• Stopping something they enjoy.

• Facing the unknown of what comes next.

• Shifting attention quickly.

For children who are sensitive, easily overwhelmed, or who thrive on routine, these shifts can feel especially big.

Simple Strategies That Help

1. Give Warnings Before Change

• Use phrases like, “Two more minutes, then it’s bath time.”

• Use a visual timer so your child can see the countdown.

Why it works: Warnings help children prepare and reduce the “surprise factor.”

2. Use Visual Supports

• Picture schedules or simple drawings can show what’s next.

• Cross off activities as they’re completed.

Why it works: Seeing what comes next helps children feel secure and reduces resistance.

3. Offer Choices

• “Do you want to walk to the car or hop like a bunny?”

• “Do you want to bring one toy with you, or put it on the shelf?”

Why it works: Choices give children a sense of control during moments that can feel bossy or forced.

4. Build Predictable Routines

• Keep bedtime, mealtimes, and morning routines consistent.

• Use the same order (e.g., brush teeth → story → bed).

Why it works: Predictability lowers anxiety and makes transitions smoother.

5. Use Play and Connection

• Turn transitions into a game (“Race you to the door!”).

• Add songs, silly voices, or high-fives.

Why it works: Connection makes children more willing to follow along.

What to Watch For

At first, your child may still resist changes — that’s normal. Over time, you may notice:

• Less crying or protesting at transitions.

• Faster recovery when upset.

• Greater independence (moving on with less prompting).

These are signs your child is learning flexibility and trust in routines.

The Big Picture

Transitions don’t have to be battles. With preparation, structure, and a little creativity, you can help your child feel secure and confident moving from one part of the day to the next.

If you’d like support creating routines that make your family life calmer and smoother, I’d be happy to talk with you.